Monday, June 15, 2020

I am so confused....

6/15/20 (I will most likely not make this public as I do not want to offend anyone because we may have differing opinions but do want my children to know my thoughts).
Our great country, whom I love, is in a state of turmoil. Playgrounds are safe in your town but not mine due to the pandemic, amusement parks are safe in Florida but not Ohio? Added to the virus pandemic, our nation is experiencing an inner battle about race.  While I strongly believe an advocate that all should be treated equal, regardless of race, and all should love all (all is all), I do know there are injustices in this world. Black Lives Matter. Of course they do. Then multiple black police officers and individuals were killed during the “peaceful protests”. I don’t see any outrage. Black individually owned businesses burned to the ground. Silence. Deadliest weekend in Chicago just occurred according to data. Then you hear- Look at the data, no, not that data. Do the math. No, you can’t do the math like that. Only the experts can understand the data and math. What do you mean other cities/states/governors are interpreting the data differently? Playgrounds are safe in your town but not mine? Just listen to the black community leaders. No, not them. If you are silent you are part of the problem. If you speak, you are part of the problem. If you have to ask, you don’t understand. If you don’t ask, you don’t care. Jake and I do not see eye to eye on it and that is okay too....it is perfectly okay to have a difference of opinion, that is one of the beauties of America.
       Yes, I believe racism exists against all races and that "white supremacy", along with other supremacies in other races exist (for example my son received a consequence at school for a situation but the other boy involved did not, why? race?), and yes there are bad cops.....but I also believe more in the good! I believe a majority of our nation is not racist and I believe a majority of the cops are good. Yesterday, as I engaged with my brother and later reflected on our conversation (along with my sister in laws), I once again self-reflected and here are some of my thoughts on the conversation.  Do not "defund" the police, provide more education for them. Did you know a hair dresser goes through more training than the police officer, that is nuts! Provide more training.
They spoke of segregated neighborhoods and CEO jobs in Fortune 500 companies disproportionals, do they exist, yes. Want to change the segregated communities, desegregate our nation. If you look at a map of the United States broken down by the races, you notice the South has the highest numbers or blacks...provide enticements to move out West and other areas of the nation.
Just Saturday when we arrived, my brothers referred to the South as the "dirt South", well what features or characteristics of the land make it "dirty" or undesirable?  Is it the land features or the the culture, you feel is dirty---maybe it is neither but a skewed perception? It is also not just that in one'e head, they feel a certain race must be hired for a position in certain areas.  For example, when looking to fill a leadership role in Memphis and your mind is made up it needs to be a person of color, that it discrimination against race. Why? What if another candidate is ruled out that is better qualified due to color? Maybe that mind set is helping to keep the nation segregated?

CEO positions, the white population is very much disproportional too in that aspect.  Nearly, 75% of the United States identifies is white, yet less than the CEO positions are held by white Americans. The most disproportional area is the Asian community which is less than 5% of the nations make up yet 30% of the CEO jobs are held by those whom identify themselves as Asians.
 Additionally, I have hear that one prefers to associate with people like them, socioeconomically, culturally, etc and often fear is instilled in people with lack of likeness....that is wrong! I am not any more scared of a black man than a white man  because of the color of their skin nor their actions.  Why, maybe because I am immersed with associates and friends that are of color, so the color of their skin does not cause me anxiety.  You can a clean dressed black man and a "thuggish" looking white man walking together down the street and I will be more anxious by the white man (and yes I know the thuggish the comment can be skewed as a stereotype, even though it is not meant that way). Part of a happy/ peaceful nation is benefiting from the differences between races, male and female—to receive strength through and be blessed by differences. We might think we want our friends/neighbors to have the same attitudes and qualities that we do, but differences actually strengthen our nation. When we understand our divine roles, traits, and distinctive capacities as men and women and build on those, we bring strength to our country.
       If you want to change society, you change with love and teaching love, tolerance, and being non-judgmental. You offer despite of what area of the nation you live in, the same opportunities. You help diversify areas of our great nation- this helps breaks down barriers and stereotypes, as we take the opportunities to come to know other races and cultures when they become our neighbors.  This also helps with the educational schools, where "inner city" is no longer inner city because we are dispersed with one another and truly helping all as the Savior would. You see I want to be better, to know better, and to teach better but I do not want to discredit who I or my children are either.  I love and respect the differences among us. Good people are good people. We are Americans- we will rise stronger, better, and filled with more love towards one another. I vow to do all I can as a momma to teach my crew love for all and to be non-judgmental of others. We want our children to see that good in people, know that good, and love it.
-
        Although I am not articulate with words, I think my feelings can best be expressed through this article released from the prophet and the NAACP:
"We met for the first time two years ago. The occasion was a simple conversation between leaders of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. That unlikely meeting was a first. But it sparked insights about ways to work together to improve self-reliance and upward mobility for inner-city and minority families.
During our collaborations, we quickly felt deep respect for one another, even referring to ourselves as “brothers from another mother.” Our common bond as followers of Jesus Christ and as religious leaders gave us a natural foundation from which to build a friendship as well as an opportunity to better appreciate each other’s unique perspective and experience.
Some might think us unlikely collaborators, but our respective organizations have connected in a significant way. Not as black or white, not as Baptists or members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but as children of God who are working to bring hope, happiness, and love to all of God’s children.
Our joint efforts have shown that we have far more in common than issues that, at first glance, might appear to divide us. Both of our organizations have learned lessons from the past. Both of us have been willing to listen to and learn from each other. Respect and cooperation have yielded the sweet fruit of reconciliation, admiration, service, and genuine love.
United, we declare that the answers to racism, prejudice, discrimination and hate will not come from government or law enforcement alone. Solutions will come as we open our hearts to those whose lives are different than our own, as we work to build bonds of genuine friendship, and as we see each other as the brothers and sisters we are — for we are all children of a loving God. 
We share deep sorrow for the senseless, heinous act of violence that needlessly took the life of George Floyd. We mourn with his family, friends and community. We likewise look on with sadness at the anger, hate, contempt and violence spilling onto America’s streets, devastating cities across the nation, and creating fear and anxiety in citizens across this great land.
The wheels of justice should move fairly for all. Jesus of Nazareth came that we might have life, and have it “more abundantly.” We should follow His example and seek for an abundant life for all God’s children. This includes protecting our brothers and sisters who have been wronged and bringing to justice those who have taken life or broken the law, thus robbing others of an abundant life.
What is the solution? Whether you are a believer or not, Jesus Christ taught an inspired model that leads to peace and harmony — to love God first, and then to love our neighbor as ourselves. We don’t pretend that either of these pursuits is easy, but we do declare that they yield the fruits the Lord promised.
We agree with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s statement, that “hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that.” It is this kind of love that inspires us to do the rigorous work of building bridges of cooperation rather than walls of segregation and alienation.
We call on people everywhere to join us in a journey of understanding and overcoming. As de Tocqueville said, America is great because she is good. It is paramount that we rediscover the goodness in each and every human heart. In this spirit, there are things every one of us can do.
We invite all to pray to God that the people of this land will heed the Divine call to abandon attitudes of prejudice against any group of God’s children.
We also invite people of goodwill everywhere to look for ways to reach out and serve someone of a different background or race. Everyone can do something.
Prejudice, hate and discrimination are learned. Thus, we call on parents, family members, and teachers to be the first line of defense. Teaching children to love all, and find the good in others, is more crucial than ever. Oneness is not sameness in America. We must all learn to value the differences.
We likewise call on government, business, and educational leaders at every level to review processes, laws, and organizational attitudes regarding racism and root them out once and for all. It is past time for every one of us to elevate our conversations above divisive and polarizing rhetoric. Treating others with respect matters. Treating each other as sons and daughters of God matters.
We likewise remind everyone that we must renounce illegal acts such as looting, destruction, and defacement of public or private property. Never has one wrong been corrected by a second wrong. Evil has never been resolved by more evil.
Arm in arm and shoulder to shoulder, may we strive to lift our brothers and sisters everywhere, in every way we can.
We first linked arms as friends and have now locked arms in love and brotherhood. The people of America can do the same.



President Russell M. Nelson, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Derrick Johnson, NAACP President and CEO
Leon Russell, NAACP Chairman of the Board
The Reverend Amos C. Brown, Chairman Emeritus of Religious Affairs, NAACP

Saturday, June 13, 2020

Yellowstone,we bid the farwwell...

Our trip to Jackson Hole/Yellowstone has come to an end. We had a nice time, each (Jake and I) interviewed for assistant principal job (the same one), Jake interviewed for a board position, and celebrated our boy turning double digits.  Life is good. Jake did not get the position at the board (our other admin at Bon Lin did, so know the principal has to hire to AP's) but we are at peace with it. As much as I was hoping for it, it was not in the card right now and I am trying to remember that God is in the details and sees the big picture.
Grand Canyon of Yellowstone
Grand Tetons- Moose overlook
Grand Tetons with my crew
Tommie and Karen with their kids (-Gerald)
Walking near Old Faithful
My handsome boy
Grand Canyon of Yellowstone
My Love
He is all mine!

Gardner Montana

Not so sure about that face...
Petrified Tree at Yellowstone


Hooking up to go to String Lake
Olivia and Chloe at String Lake
String Lake (Brayden, Oscar, Nathan, and Ginny)



Headed to go white water rafting



Olivia, Oscar, Nathan, Ginny, Aubree, Christopher, and Brennan
David and Jake being silly






And our youngest is double digits...

We are in Jackson Hole Wyoming with dad's family so we celebrated here.  We went to String Lake in the Grand Tetons to kayak and you very much enjoyed that.  Christopher- you remind of our family of being kind. You have been so concerned with covid-19 and remember it each time you pray, reminding us that God hears our prayers.  You are courageous and try your best to make good choices.  Our life is better with you in it.  We love you!

Facts about Christopher, by Christopher:

You currently want to be when you grow up: Archeologists or math teacher
Your favorite color is: all of them besides black
Your favorite show: Sonic the Hedgehog movie
Your favorite game is: Ticket to Ride
Your favorite toy or activity is: math
Your favorite girl is: Jewell Weeks and mom
You are really good at: doing math
Your best friend is: Jonah Donald
You want to vacation to: underwater volcano
Your favorite ice cream is: Superman (Galactic Swirl)
Your wish is to be: to be better
Your hero is: Jesus Christ and my family
Your favorite thing to do with your friends is: play with them 
Your favorite holiday is: Christmas
Your favorite person in the whole world is: my family
Your favorite song(s) is: Blank Space
Your favorite restaurant is: Freddy's Steak-burgers and custard
Your favorite foods are: Croutons, tuna, haystacks, and Rotel Chicken
If you had $1000 you would buy: a house for the poor


Gardner

Saturday, June 6, 2020

Headed to Yellowstone

Yesterday, we began our trek outside to meet some of Jake's family at Yellowstone and then to see my brothers afterwards.  We spent 17 hours in the road yesterday and traveled to Cheyenne, WY and then 7 hours this morning to arrive at Yellowstone.  We were a little reluctant with all the chaos happening in the world right now with Covid-19 (although things are opening back up, we are trying to play it safe) and now with all the protests and riots across the nation calling for an end to racism against blacks. My heart has been heavy this past week thinking about the situation, while I do not agree with some things being said (like de-funding police), I do believe that we are all equal.  The best I can do is teach my children to love.  I think President Nelson addressed it best on his social media:
-
"We join with many throughout this nation and around the world who are deeply saddened at recent evidences of racism and a blatant disregard for human life. We abhor the reality that some would deny others respect and the most basic of freedoms because of the color of his or her skin.
We are also saddened when these assaults on human dignity lead to escalating violence and unrest.

     The Creator of us all calls on each of us to abandon attitudes of prejudice against any group of God’s children. Any of us who has prejudice toward another race needs to repent!
     During the Savior’s earthly mission, He constantly ministered to those who were excluded, marginalized, judged, overlooked, abused, and discounted. As His followers, can we do anything less? The answer is no! We believe in freedom, kindness, and fairness for all of God’s children!
      Let us be clear. We are brothers and sisters, each of us the child of a loving Father in Heaven. His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, invites all to come unto Him—“black and white, bond and free, male and female,” (2 Nephi 26:33). It behooves each of us to do whatever we can in our spheres of influence to preserve the dignity and respect every son and daughter of God deserves.
      Any nation can only be as great as its people. That requires citizens to cultivate a moral compass that helps them distinguish between right and wrong.
       Illegal acts such as looting, defacing, or destroying public or private property cannot be tolerated. Never has one wrong been corrected by a second wrong. Evil has never been resolved by more evil.
       We need to foster our faith in the Fatherhood of God and the brotherhood of man.
       We need to foster a fundamental respect for the human dignity of every human soul, regardless of their color, creed, or cause.
      And we need to work tirelessly to build bridges of understanding rather than creating walls of segregation.
      I plead with us to work together for peace, for mutual respect, and for an outpouring of love for all of God’s children."
-
On a different note, my heart was happy when I found this image on Ginny's social media.  The two pictures were of Jake and I preparing to load the car the night before we were to leave.  He came and said the lighting was perfect and came and got me.  It made me feel good, although I had just showered and had no make up on.
Ginny's picture on one of her social media posts of her scriptures.