Becoming More Like Christ (Will's talk) Given in Memphis 1st ward on 5/24/26

Hi everyone. I’ve been asked to give a talk today, and when I first read the material, I was a bit overwhelmed. But as I read more, I realized it all ties back to a central idea: how can we become more like Jesus Christ? That’s what I’d like to discuss today.

In the scriptures, Jesus poses a simple yet profound question: “What manner of men ought ye to be?” He then answers it himself, saying, “Even as I am.” (3 Nephi 27:27) I find myself thinking about that often. He’s essentially saying, “Be like Me.” It’s not just about acting like Me sometimes, but truly becoming like Me.

That might sound like a tall order, right? But I believe that’s the essence of our lives. We’re meant to strive for that, one step at a time.

So, the first thing I’d like to explore is faith. Many people think they understand it, but I believe it’s more complex than it appears. It’s not just about believing Jesus is real. It’s about trusting Him enough to follow His teachings, even when it’s challenging. In Alma 32:21, it states that faith isn’t complete knowledge but rather an assurance of truths, even when they’re not immediately visible. I find this fascinating because it suggests that faith involves some uncertainty. If you knew everything for certain, you wouldn’t need faith.

And faith isn’t just a feeling; it’s a decision. I came across something that really resonated with me: “Faith is not only a feeling; it is a decision.” I thought that was quite interesting. It means that each day, we have the choice to embrace faith or not. We cultivate it through prayer, scripture study, and obedience to the commandments. As we do, our faith grows stronger. However, when doubt and sin enter our lives, it weakens. It’s a bit like a muscle—it needs to be worked on to stay strong.

The next thing we’re talking about is hope. And I want to be clear about what hope means here, because it’s not just about wishing for something. Like, “I hope it doesn’t rain on Saturday”—that’s not really the kind of hope we’re talking about. The hope that Moroni teaches about is more like a deep confidence that God is going to keep His promises. It says in Moroni 7:41 that we should “have hope through the atonement of Christ and the power of his resurrection.” So our hope is centered in Jesus Christ and what He did for us. That’s what makes it real and solid, not just wishful thinking.

I think hope is really important, especially when things are hard. Like, when you’re going through something tough, hope is what keeps you going. It says in Ether 12:4 that hope gives us an anchor for our souls. And I think that’s a really good image. Like, an anchor keeps a boat from drifting away even when there are waves. Hope keeps us from drifting away from God even when life is rough.

Now, the one I feel like is the most important—charity. The scriptures define charity as “the pure love of Christ.” It says in Moroni 7:47. And it’s not just like being nice to people. It goes a lot deeper than that. It’s seeing people the way God sees them, as His children, and actually caring about whether they’re okay. Not just on the surface, but really caring.

Mormon actually tells us to pray for charity. He says to “pray unto the Father with all the energy of heart, that ye may be filled with this love.” I thought it was interesting that it says “all the energy of heart”—like it takes real effort even just to pray for it. It doesn’t just come automatically. You have to want it and ask for it.

I also appreciate how charity is portrayed. When you have it, you’re less likely to judge others, feel angry, or be jealous. You become more patient and genuinely want to understand their perspectives. That sounds wonderful to me because I believe one of the world’s biggest challenges is people’s tendency to judge quickly and assume the worst. Charity is essentially the opposite of that.

Now, let’s talk about virtue. Virtue involves keeping your thoughts and actions clean and pure. Doctrine and Covenants 121:45 says, “Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly.” I particularly liked the analogy that compares your mind to a stage in a theater. Whatever you allow to stay on that stage starts to control you. If you let bad thoughts linger in your mind, you’re more likely to make poor choices. However, if you actively fill your mind with good things, you’re more likely to do good things. I find that advice incredibly practical.

Now, I’d like to discuss integrity, as it’s something that’s personally meaningful to me.

Integrity is about being true to God at all times, even when no one is watching. For a long time, I struggled with this. I had a particular issue with being honest with my family. It wasn’t always about major things; it was often small details—where I’d been, what I’d been doing, whether I’d completed tasks I was supposed to do. I’d often choose the easier way out, telling them what was more convenient than the truth. I became quite skilled at this, which, honestly, made it worse because it stopped feeling like a significant issue.

However, here’s the thing: it always created a distance. Not just between me and my parents, but also between me and God. I knew. Even when others didn’t, I knew. And that feeling doesn’t disappear just because you get away with something.

I still make mistakes sometimes. I won’t pretend I’ve got everything figured out. But I’ve realized that the moment after I say something that isn’t true—that tiny window where I could just stop and correct it—is the most important one. Whether I take it or let it go really shows where I stand with integrity.

The scriptures say that when you have integrity, you’ll find inner peace and self-respect, and that God and others will trust you. I think that’s exactly right. And I’ve noticed that the more I focus on this, the more peaceful I feel, even when it means having a tough conversation. Telling the truth is usually harder right away and easier later. Lying is easier right away and harder later. That’s a real trade-off.

Integrity also means you don’t lower your standards just to fit in or impress people. That’s tough sometimes because there’s a lot of pressure to go along with things. But having integrity means you stick to what you know is right, even if it’s not the popular choice.

Knowledge is another Christlike quality, which I thought was interesting because sometimes people think learning and spirituality are separate things. But the Lord said to “seek learning, even by study and also by faith.” Both together. Studying the scriptures, learning about the gospel, asking questions—that’s all part of becoming a better disciple. And as you do that, the Holy Ghost helps you understand things in a deeper way, not just on an intellectual level.

Patience is something I need to work on. The way it’s described is really helpful, though—it’s not just sitting around waiting. It says patience is “active waiting.” You’re still doing your part, working hard, hoping, exercising faith—but you’re trusting God’s timing instead of demanding things happen on your schedule. And you’re patient with other people too, and with yourself. I think being patient with yourself is actually one of the hardest parts.

Humility is really the opposite of pride, which the scriptures say is a big stumbling block in our spiritual journey. Being humble means you’re ready to do what God asks, you give Him the credit for the good things in your life, and you’re open to learning. You’re willing to trust God’s commandments, even when you don’t fully understand them. And it’s said that humility shows spiritual strength, not weakness. I think that’s important because the world sometimes tells you that being humble means you’re a pushover. But that’s not what it means at all.

Diligence means working hard consistently, not just when someone is watching or telling you what to do. Doctrine and Covenants 58 says we should “bring to pass much righteousness” on our own. God doesn’t want to have to tell us everything; He wants us to love His work enough to just do it. It also says to find joy in the work itself, not just in the results. I think that’s a really mature way to think about things.

And then obedience. Keeping the commandments is described as an expression of love. Jesus said, “If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love.” So it’s not about being obedient because you’re scared of getting in trouble. It’s about obeying because you love God and you trust Him. King Benjamin said those who keep the commandments are “blessed in all things, both temporal and spiritual.” That’s a pretty good deal.

So, how do we actually develop all these attributes? It can feel like a lot. Like, okay, I need to have faith AND hope AND charity AND virtue AND integrity AND knowledge AND patience AND humility AND diligence AND obedience? That’s overwhelming.

But the key thing is that these aren’t things you check off a list. They’re not a self-improvement program. They’re gifts from God. You receive them as you try to become a better disciple. You pray for them. You acknowledge you need help. And God helps you grow, bit by bit.

It also reminds us to be patient with ourselves. “God knows that change and growth take time. He is pleased with your sincere desires.” I really needed to hear that. Sometimes, I get frustrated with how slow I feel like I’m progressing. But God sees my desires and my effort, not just my results.

And one last thing. There’s a scripture in Ether 12:27 that says if we come to God with our weaknesses, He will make weak things become strong. That’s one of the most hopeful promises in all of scripture I think. Whatever you’re struggling with — whatever attribute feels the most out of reach — God can help you develop it. I know that from personal experience. You just have to want it and work toward it.

So that’s basically the message. Becoming like Christ is the whole point. It’s not a quick process. It’s a lifelong thing. But every choice we make, every prayer we say, every time we try to be a little more patient or a little more honest or a little more loving — that’s us moving toward becoming who God wants us to be. And that’s worth working for.

I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

3/4 are high school graduates

 The older my kids the get, the more I realize time really does pass all too quickly.  Will graduated high school on Friday evening. I can say his 4 years of a high school were a roller coaster, probably for he and I both.  We tried our very best to make the best choice for him when we pulled him the last two years to home-school. Often I questioned it or felt like I was letting him down, but I did really try.  He was so happy Friday night and we tried to celebrate him!  We went to dinner before graduation and then for ice cream after.  He was all smiles, now to see what great things are in store for his life as he continues to grow and mature. 

 

His best friend, JJ Jones came to support him.

Not sure who deserves the diploma..Will or mom?

Will’s Mother's Day testimony

Little did I know one of Jake’s counselors asked Will to share a few words today. It was touching for me to hear, even though I think the talks should focus on womanhood that say rather than mothers.  He did a great job and I felt a little rebuked by not being better. I’m glad he’s my son and I love him. 

(Edited for professionalism by AI) 

Hello, brothers and sisters. I am deeply grateful to be here today, on Mother’s Day, to share a few words about my mother and the profound impact she has had on my life and my faith. When I was asked to speak, I initially felt a sense of apprehension. However, upon reflecting on my mother’s unwavering love and dedication, I realized that I could share her remarkable qualities with you.

My mother is one of the most protective individuals I know. Her protective nature is a testament to her unwavering love and commitment to her family. From a young age, she ensured our safety, love, and well-being. While I may not have fully comprehended her protective instincts during my childhood, I have come to understand that protection is an expression of love. It is a reflection of the Savior’s love for us, as He watches over us, guards us, and provides us with the strength to face life’s challenges. My mother has consistently demonstrated this profound love without even realizing it.

She possesses a unique gift, a divine gift, of sensing our emotions without the need for verbal communication. She intuitively understands when we are experiencing distress, when we require comfort, encouragement, or simply a moment of solitude. This remarkable discernment and sensitivity to the needs of others are believed to stem from her intimate relationship with the Lord. The Holy Ghost communicates with mothers in a special way, and I have witnessed this in my own life.

Furthermore, my mother has enriched my life with cherished memories that will forever remain with me. She has consistently provided solace during difficult times, offering a kind word, a small yet thoughtful gesture, or simply her presence. These seemingly insignificant moments have repeatedly affirmed my love and worth. When I contemplate the depth of Heavenly Father’s love for each of us, I am reminded of my mother’s unwavering love. She has exemplified the steadfast, patient, and joyful love that defines her character.

 

One of my favorite memories — and I have to share this because it just makes me smile every time I think about it — is when my mom and my dad surprised me and took me to a football game. I had no idea it was coming. I remember just the excitement of that day, but more than anything, I remember her being there. I remember laughing together and just being present with the people I love most. That memory isn't really about football. It's about a mom who wanted to give her kid something special. It's about a woman who pours herself into her children because she loves us deeply.

 

I want to say something that I think is really important, especially for any of the young people in here today. Our moms are not perfect. And that's okay. In fact, I think there's something really beautiful about that. My mom makes mistakes sometimes — all moms do — but here's the thing I've had to remind myself: this is their first time being a mom. They have never done this before. They are learning and growing just like we are. And the fact that they show up every single day, that they keep trying, that they keep loving us even through the hard days — that is a testimony in itself. That is grace in action.

 

I think about the women in scripture — Mary, the mother of our Savior. Eve, the mother of all living. The stripling warriors and their mothers who taught them to have faith. There is something deeply sacred and powerful about the role of a mother. The world may not always recognize it, but I believe God does. And I believe He placed these women in our lives on purpose.

 

My mom has led me closer to Christ not by preaching at me, but by living her faith in front of me. In her kindness. In her sacrifice. In her love for our family. In the way she keeps going even when things are hard. She has shown me what it looks like to follow the Savior in the everyday, ordinary, beautiful moments of life.

 

So Mom, thank you. Thank you for protecting us, for knowing us, for cheering us up, for giving us memories we'll hold onto forever, and for doing your very best every single day. I love you more than I can say. And I am so grateful God gave me you.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Wreck # 2 in a little over a month

Will had an accident yesterday in the Armada, which was his fault. Fortunately he is okay. We consider that a blessing that he as protected.  It does stress me out a touch trying to figure out him to work and Christopher from school but I am confident it will all be well.  The Armada is not totaled, or at least we do not think so. We plan to pay for the repairs and still drive it because it is the only vehicle that fits all 6 of us still.  

On a happier note, Will is officially done with high school as I submitted his final grades today.  We also had to have a hard conversation with him yesterday and his reaction was the best to date...could it be a combination of several things: sleeping in the shed, an accident, taking his medication, or a little guilt about what we needed to talk to him about? But we choose to believe it is the hand of God working in his life and in ours. We are trying to always remember that he is God's son too and He loves and works with him too. 

Random photo from Jake leading music time on this past Sunday. He led for both junior and senior. I think the primary kids enjoyed him being there and I enjoyed watching him. 

 

Me and my boys

 Each Sunday around Cinco de' Mayo, I wear my dress from Mexico.  The boys and I snapped a few pictures after church and on the way home from church. I am blessed with four children to help me grow and improve. 

 

25 years and counting

Here’s to 25 years of my home, safety place, and happiness. I’d choose Jake over and over again. I am a better person with him in my life. Excited for eternity with him. 

We do not have many photos from our wedding day because the photographer got sick but I am thankful for the ones I do have.  I was able to make these look a little better and snapped a picture of my bridal.  Regardless, it was one of the best days of my life marrying the man that makes me better and is kind to all.  

 

 

End of April recap (1/2 nurse, out of the house, & temple time)

 Aubree has officially finished her first year of nursing school at UTHSC.  Although I know she misses Utah, I think she is glad that she is here for school and it getting a good education. I know we are glad she is here. I always enjoy seeing her on campus and occasional lunches. 

Ginny went to New York and ran a 1/2 marathon.  Between she and Aubree running, Christopher has been trying to run more often and go to the gym with Aubree when he can. 

Will has had a rough week or so and we are having him sleep in the shed (as of 4/23). It is kinda our version of kicked out but we are providing everything still except the comfort of his room.  We ordered things to go around the door to prevent mosquitoes from coming in and on stormy days/nights, we are letting him in the room. On 5/1, he decided he was not staying at our house and had his friend pick him up....the while situation breaks my heart.   I have shed many tears and cry almost daily thinking about it but we do not know what else to do to best help him.  It makes me so sad the struggles he has because he really is a good kid.  This past weekend we did two sessions on Saturday at the temple. Will was heavily on my mind throughout both.  The first session, I was so sad but the second was joyous and I felt that God was telling me not to give up.  During the session, the talk came to my mind multiple times that He is in relentless pursuit of his children always, so we must also be in relentless pursuit of our boy. I am hoping that he is soon able to begin his mission papers. Yes, he needs to work on honesty and I imagine it puts Jake in a hard spot because he has has first hand knowledge of things and for others, he just opens the portals. I hope he is able to go. I am trying very hard to trust God and to trust Jake. I struggle a lot with his medication and the role it may play in receiving a call. 

Now for the second temple session- our Ginny went through for her endowment on 5/2.  It was a beautiful afternoon. It was wonderful to be sitting in the session with my daughter's on each side of me. Both are beautiful in white. Happy heavenly birthday Papaw from below.