We survived the school year during a pandemic and my kids are troopers. We opted to keep our kids virtual all year and they did it. There were definitely some struggles but we made it. Christopher attended the Fun run at school and loved seeing his friends.
Last Sunday (May 9th), Jake and I had just crawled into bed and the phone rang (11:48 pm). It was my dad so I answered and knew immediately that it must not be well if he was up and calling that late. He said he had sad news about Robert and that he had passed. My parents were in Idaho and the only thing I knew was that I needed to get to Charity and the kids, so Jake and I left our house a little after midnight and drove through the night to Knoxville to be with Charity. She had sent the kids to school not ready to tell them yet. Jake and I went with her to get the kids from school and then she told them one at at time. Jake broke the news to Riley and Izzy alongside with Charity. Izzy immediately lost it. Sandra drive up that afternoon so her kids could play with Chare's kids and it was a great distraction for them. Monday evening close to midnight, Riley came in to chat with Jake. Jake is so compassionate and good for them. He is a rock. We bought plane tickets for them to fly out to see Robert's family and attend a memorial for the kids. Seeing a video of the kids singing "Peace in Christ" and wiping tears got me all weepy too. It has been a very rough week and I am sure there are many rough ones to come. I have always said when Robert was good, he was good. I have cried much more than I anticipated I would. I am glad Robert no longer has to fight off the voices or demons but I know it will most likely be so tough on the kids and I hope they never feel that they were not living for. Suicide will forever be a soft spot in my heart. Rest in Peace, Robert.
Robert Sage Dilgard was born September 7, 1986 in Conifer, Colorado and continued on his journey to eternal paradise on May 9, 2021.
Robert grew up in the north end of Boise and attended Taft Elementary, Hillside Junior High and graduated from Boise High School in 2005. In Robert’s elementary and teenage years, he was a dynamic athlete known for his passionate and competitive spirit. He played every game with heart and tenacity. Some of his fondest moments were spent in the Sawtooth mountains, at Red fish lake, biking the trails of the Boise foothills and swimming at Lowell pool.
He served the people of the Ecuador Guayaquil South Mission from 2006-2008 where he selflessly devoted his life to serve God and his children. During his service in South America, he found extreme joy and peace, both in his mind and in his heart. He attended BYU-Idaho, where he earned a Bachelor’s degree in Sociology and later a Bachelors in Nursing from Union University. He married Charity Eaton in 2009 in Tennessee where they settled to grow their family. Charity gave birth to their four beautiful children. He worked as a teacher and a nurse and continued his education in advanced nursing practice.
Robert was a creative, hardworking, funny, animated, talented, dedicated, energetic, artistic, loving, genuine, humble, open-minded person. More than anything, he enjoyed spending time with his four beautiful children. Music was how Robert loved to express himself and he enjoyed writing songs and playing music on his guitar. His passion was evident whenever he played. Robert was an incredibly intelligent man and excelled in all arenas.
Robert was a true example of unconditional love and always provided an environment of acceptance. He was fond of the saying, “Today let us have compassion and allow others their limitations without judgment.” We know that Robert is at peace and will continue his mission in the next life where he will be whole again. We anticipate the joyous reunion to come. “We are made of the stuff of eternity. Endings are not our destiny. Endings in mortality are not endings at all. In His plan, there are no true endings, only everlasting beginnings.” -Dieter F. Uchtdorf
He is survived by his parents, Robert and Jennifer Dilgard, his wonderful children Riley, Isabelle, Johnny, Charlie, and their mother Charity, his sister September, brother-in-law Travis Frogley and their five children, Keaton, Kole, Evy, Elynn, Vance, and his brother John and his brother-in-law Patrick Kaples. He is part of a large extended family and was loved by all who knew him. He had a gift for making everyone feel like family wherever he went.
Robert fought a rigorous battle with mental illness and addiction, which causes so much heartache and pain for the individual and for those who love them. The family would like to ensure that part of his legacy is encouraging individuals debilitated by the illnesses of the mind, as well as their families, to get help. We encourage those affected to seek help early and commit to honesty and transparency. We know that the Atonement of Jesus Christ is the only way to overcome the trials of this life and experience healing and hope throughout eternity.
We have welcomed a new member to the family, Penelope Diane Dickey, daughter of Rebekah and Adam Dickey. My kiddos are enjoying the baby.
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I have now been married to my beautiful wife for 20 years plus one day. Why the plus one? It is the secret to the success of our marriage. Big events and milestones are wonderful, but what we do with the ordinary days is probably what matters most. Holding hands in the car drive to work, watching a favorite show together, praying as a family, dancing in the kitchen, sitting on my near perfect lawn, and sitting next to each other whenever possible are the little things that make each and every day special. Renee' Farrell is the recharge I need after a long day at school or a disappointing outcome. She is a warm cuddle buddy when she keeps the house freezing. She is the giver of unexpected smiles. She is part of my happiness. I hope to enjoy a lot more plus ones with her. Thank you for a wonderful 20 years, Renee' Farrell.
