Sunday, April 15, 2012

Renee''s talk on the Atonement

Applying the Atonement

It is not uncommon for me to feel nervous or anxious when asked to give a talk but this talk seems a little more so than normal. Maybe for two possible reasons, I know that we are soon departing from this ward family or because today is a holiday, not just any holiday, the holiday that merely focus on the resurrection of our Savior. Christmas is wonderful because we celebrate the birth of our Savior and are grateful for his life. Easter, is a time to contemplate, exactly what He did for us individually, with the events leading to his death and the power He had to overcome death. He lived, died, rose again, and in reality lives for us still today.

Many of you here know that I am a mother, a mother of four active children, my four reasons that when I die, I can say I left this world a better place. There is nothing I want more than for my children to have a good life: a life where they feel loved, cared for, and their needs our met. Motherhood has taught me a plethora of life lessons, even from the beginning. Upon discovering that Jake and I were expecting our first child, a silent battle began: a battle that hospitalized me multiple times and made life unbearable at times for Jake and me, or it seemed unbearable. We had not been married too long, were living in New Mexico and in a new ward for me, so I had not yet established a relationship with my new ward. How were they to know that it was just not my personality to be un-noticed or miss church? There was even a point, while I lay helpless in a hospital bed that my husband was told that the baby or myself may not pull through the next couple months. I can only imagine the feeling of my husband, yet, I wanted nothing more than to give my unborn child life and to make the man of my dreams a father. We survived, and who would have guessed that we would do it three more times, despite the advice of different doctors, however each time became a little more bearable. And I do not regret our decision ever. After the birth of our second child, she became ill and after many tests in the hospital they were uncertain as to why. Days later, we received a phone call that test conclusions let the physicians to diagnose her with salmonella. What? How in the world? But, I knew her poor belly hurt and felt relief that she soon would be given medication since they knew what she was being treated for and this would help my sweet.

Much like, I wanted to anything I could do to give life unto my first child and ease the pains of my second, our Father in Heaven wants to do the exact thing for each of us individually. He also wants us not to feel alone, like I did for several months in New Mexico. The love that our father in heaven has for us must be incomprehensible that he was willing to offer the sacrifice of one of his children for his other children. And oh the love, that Jesus Christ has for us that he was willing to live and die for us. Many people often do not grasp the full concept of the atonement of Christ and believe it is merely for the sinner but are we not all sinners. I stand before you today to testify that the Atonement is for the saint and the sinner and equally as important that it is for me and for you alone. When I reflect on the atonement, I divide into four parts. The powers are: resurrection, redemption, healing, and strengthening.

Because Jesus Christ died and raised again, each person that has ever lived with have the opportunity to be resurrected, to live again. The other areas of the atonement are also free gifts but we must accept them, work for them, and live for them. The price has already been paid for our shortcomings and sins through the Savior’s suffering in Gethsemane. We can all be forgiven and redeemed from the fall of Adam to be able to live with our Heavenly Father again. Those two powers, resurrection and redemption, seem to be more common knowledge among people, so I would like to spend the remainder of my talk focusing on the two not so obvious, healing and strengthening. On my mission, I had a companion that always shared the same spiritual thought when we left a home. The thought came from the book of Alma and up until serving with this sister, it had not occurred to me that the atonement was so much more. The scripture is found in Alma 7:11-12:

“And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions

and temptations of every kind; and this that the word

might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him

the pains and sicknesses of his people.”

She proceeded to explain that every hardship we endure the Savior endured it for us. It was a few years later, when I was pregnant with my first that I grasped this concept…that I needed the atonement of the Savior for my everyday life. I needed the strength and support that comes with it. When Jake and I were given the assigned topics and left to choose between the two of us, whom would cover which topic, I contemplated both topics, and one evening last week, when I arrived home from work, Jake expressed the one he preferred and not by coincidence, earlier that evening I had the same thought. So, topics were chosen and I knew I could relate the previous two stories. Later, as I was reading the Ensign this week, a talk very similar stood out. Elder Bednar teaches us that the atonement increases our capacity to overcome desires of the flesh and temptations. He continues “it is one thing to know that Jesus Christ came to earth to die for us- that is fundamental and foundational to the doctrine of Christ. But we also need to appreciate that the Lord desires, through His Atonement and by the power of the Holy Ghost, to live in us- not only to direct us but also to empower us.” It provides help for us to overcome and avoid bad and to do good and become good. The enabling power of the Atonement strengthens us to do and be good and to serve beyond our own individual desire and natural capacity.

Not too long ago, we were speaking with one of our friends, this was a very good person but they were having difficulties with another person. Unfortunately, it is not always easy like everyone or to agree with them. After a brief conversation, I challenged our friend to pray for their heart to be softened towards the person that offended them and to pray for the other person by name. A few days passed and we were speaking with our friend, they expressed that almost immediately after or maybe even during their prayer that evening, they felt a comforted and it worked. It was a manifestation in their life of the Spirit. I testify to you today that it was not only Spirit comforting that person but it was the Atonement becoming applicable in their live as well. The Atonement of Christ “healed” them, maybe not physically but it “healed” emotionally and spiritually, There is nothing more than the Father and Savior want than for us to utilize the saving power of the Atonement. The scriptures teach us that the desire of our Heavenly Father is to save the souls of man, we read in Moses 1:39 “For behold this is my work and my glory to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man.” The Atonement is the only way that mission can be accomplished.

Last Sunday in general conference, Elder Uchtdorf, expressed some of the individual desires that we have and counseled us the solution. A bumper sticker saying, now famous among Latter Day Saints states: “Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you” and proceeded to state: When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following... STOP IT!

The solution to “stop it”, seems easy but we need the atonement to empower us to achieve this goal. The atonement of the Savior has a personal application to each person individually. Pregnancy was the first time that I recall a dependency upon the atonement. I learned, as Elder Bednar taught that “as you and I come to understand and employ the enabling power of the atonement in our personal lives, we will pray for strength to change our circumstances rather than praying for our circumstances to be changed.” Our afflictions and shortcomings will not be removed but we will have the strength to bear them or deal with them. Through the power of the atonement, we find strength to do things we could never do on our own. It is imperative that we rely on the atonement in every aspect of our life.

“The grace of Christ is manifest in every aspect of the Atonement—in deliverance from physical death and deliverance from fallen mortality. That is, the Savior delivers us from both the grave and ourselves—from carnality as well as from our carelessness and inadequacies. In short, the Atonement is not just for sinners: "The Atonement not only pays for our sins, it heals our wounds—the self-inflicted ones and those inflicted from sources beyond our control. The Atonement also completes the process of our learning by perfecting our nature and making us whole. In this way, Christ's Atonement makes us as he is".

Brad Wilcox explains how Christ's Atonement is not something we only need once in awhile but continuously throughout our lives, and that it's always available to us, no matter how often we sin. "If we view the Atonement as only a way to be resurrected after we die, what motivates us to live? If we view the Atonement as only a way to clean up after the messes we have made, what motivates us to avoid making messes? If we view the Atonement as only a comforting support when we deal with hurts and illnesses, why are we required to go through such trials in the first place? What motivates us to learn from those experiences rather than just endure them? In each case, the answers we seek are found only as we look beyond Christ's saving role to His redeeming role. As Latter-day Saints, we know not only what Jesus saved us from but also what He redeemed us for. We must be renewed, refined, and ultimately perfected in Him"

It is my prayer that we each apply the atoning blood of the Savior in our lives, all four aspects or powers of it: healing, strengthening, resurrection, and redemption. May we receive the strengthening power of His sacrifice in our silent battles and overcome them. Jesus Christ is not just our Savior but He is also our Redeemer. May we become renewed, refined, and perfected through Him.


Easter 2012




Easter was great here in the Farrell home this year. The Easter bunny came Saturday evening while we were outside watching the Bible videos of the Savior's life. Jake and I were asked to be the speakers on Sunday and after church we went to my parents for the dinner with the family. Papaw was there too, so it was a nice day. It will be the last Easter dinner in the home I was raised in as they are getting a new home. Michael and Amy came down that week to search for a home too. We are looking forward to them moving here. As for our new home, we are hoping to close this coming week. We are excited but there are many things that I will miss about our place here. We have brought two sweet baby boys home from the hospital here and my girls have began to become little ladies. This has been a good home for us and a good ward. Jake has been in the bishopric going on four years and that calling has been wonderful for him.

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Happy Birthday Ginny

My second favorite day this week was Saturday. My eldest, Ginny, turned double digits. It is very hard for me to believe that I have a ten year old. Each day, I am still learning to be a mom. Last Sunday, was one of the moments that I was proud to be a mom. In Relief Society, during the lesson, one of the ladies shared something that she learned from one of her activity day girls that has impacted her and she thinks about daily. The lady, Sister Sharon McGaughy, said that the little girl said, "if you don't love someone then you need to serve them until you do." After the comment, I turned around because I had a hunch because it is something that I tell my babies often, and she said "Yes, it was your Ginny." I was one proud mommy and today, she came to me after church with a few tears telling me how she would miss Ginny and the void in the ward from us leaving could not be filled. As I drove home, I contemplated the power and influence of a child. My child, my Ginny, had taught this lady and me a priceless lesson. Ginny is kind, obedient, and patient. She makes all A's in school and loves to read. She is an example to her siblings, parents, and classmates. Heavenly Father has blessed me from the beginning with remarkable children. For Ginny's birthday, we took a group of her friends to the movie and then to Dairy Queen. Nana came up to celebrate with her and the rest of the family here joined us a Dairy Queen. I love that my family is always there for the special days in my children's lives.

Happy Birthday Jake


This week has been super crazy...I had an early morning obligation each day this week and working nights, makes it even more difficult. But it brings us one step closer to getting into our new home. Jake and I are excited. This week there were two special days for me. On Friday, we celebrated Jake's birthday. He is my most favorite person in the entire world. I love that man. Unfortunately, I was exhausted and didn't get a cake made but that's okay. A little about Jake right now: he is 1st counselor in the bishopric, teaches 7th and 8th grade Science, loves to be outdoors (especially working in the yard), he enjoys playing basketball, and he loves being a father. Jake says that the reason that he enjoys taking the girls to school is because each morning, they read scriptures together on the way to school. Each night, he watches a show with the boys while I work. He is an excellent father.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Spring Break Fun












Spring break was March 12-16th and we had a great time as a family. We have been searching for a house and found one on March 10th that we really liked, so we submitted an offer. Our current house has been wonderful for our little family but we ave out grown it. We began looking a little while back and decided to spring break searching more...luckily for us, we found one we liked. We did not hesitate to submit an offer because the last time we found one we liked was gone before we ever had the chance to submit the offer. Fortunately, in our favor, a few days after we heard that our offer was accepted. We will be moving to Bartlett into a home twice as large as the one we currently live in and in a better neighborhood. I am very excited but nervous at the same time. Our mortgage is also doubling as will our electric bill, did I mention we will be paying two mortgages our current home sells. Also, last Sunday ward members found out, Jake informed bishop days earlier as soon as we knew, so be could prepare to submit for a new counselor. The last two Sundays, we have felt an out pouring of love and people saying they will miss us, a few have even shed a tear or two. I will miss seeing my sister most of all. Memphis 2nd ward has been a good for us to be a part of.
But on to Spring Break fun, Jake completed the tree fort for the kids, just in time to move. We took the kids to the zoo, Christopher loved the water area of the zoo, and then we went to Jackson and spent the day. We enjoyed a week as a family and anticipate the excitement of the next month as we prepare for our move.

Monday, February 20, 2012

Valentines week

Valentines was on a Tuesday, so Monday work was early and long. I had to be there at 6:30p.m and did not get off until 3:00 a.m., so I as exhausted but wanted to make sure the kids woke up to something. We are trying to conserve money to buy a new home, so I decided to hear attack the doors. The week of valentines this week was crazy busy for me....I literally had things going everyday and most days multiple things going. However, the highlight of the week was being able to go watch Aubree's black history program at school. She wanted to be a slave so she could wear her jeans and she played up the part. She loved it and was so proud. One of my favorite things about that day was how she looked very hard to spot us in the audience. Sandra was there too and Aubree wanted to make sure that she saw us. It was also a bonus that I was off work Valentines night. The next morning, I enjoyed mornings with mom at the girls school.I had taken off because Jake and I were suppose to meet with the attorney from a car wreck over two years ago. We both took off work and on our way there, we received a phone call that they needed to cancel...I was mad but did enjoy the day with Jake. We went and got him botox again to hopefully help headaches to become less frequent for him. Then Friday, Jake and Aubree flew to Houston for Callie's baptism. Aubree loves Callie and enjoyed the time with her dad. I enjoyed a good weekend too. Mom came up Saturday evening and we went to dinner and the mall with Charity. Jacob William took Rebekah to dinner for being his Valentine. The Sunday, I was able to be with Sandra at Elijah's blessing and enjoy a nice afternoon at James's house with a lot of the family. Ginny and I came home and enjoyed a little "girl time", we baked cookies, had popcorn, and watched a "chic flick". The week ended on a high not because a little before midnight, Jake and Aubree arrived home. Jake is real funny, he packed me a piece of cake in his suitcase because he liked it so much, he wanted me to have some too..how sweet is that!

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Hypocrite

This week, I would like to share a humbling experience that I had this past week. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and as a member one of the responsibilities that I have is to be a visiting teacher. As a visiting teacher, it is my privilege to be able to visit assigned sisters each month with my companion. My companion is a neat lady but does not drive, which leads to my story. Our route, is not a simple one. We visit two inactive sisters, a new member, and an active person. One of the women on our route has no transportation, so each month, I take her to the grocery store. This takes about 4 hours with both my boys and sometimes Riley too on one day. Last Wednesday, as I sat in the car with my boys waiting on her, I was thinking of 20 others things that I could be doing and a few more why it would be easier if someone else took her...then it dawned on me, Renee', you hypocrite, each Sunday you tell your class the importance of loving and serving one another and here you are not having a joyful heart. After, I cleared my mind, the lady came back to the car and I had made a silent resolution to to do better. Also at church, for the past two years, I have been blessed to be the gospel essentials teacher. I love it and my testimony has grown from teaching the class and answering questions. It helps that the missionaries say if they can get people to stay for my class, they always come back. I am thankful for the eye opening experience and the reminder to practice what you preach! I also had the chance to have lunch with a sister that seemed to be having a hard time. When I mentioned we should do lunch one day, I did not really think it would happen but when I received the text asking if the day worked, I believe I was the one lifted more than she was. Happiness can really be strengthened when we help others cheerfully.
Today was stake conference and here is what I came away with today. One of the speakers, Elder Robert W. Hymas (from Lexington Kentucky) of the area seventy, began his talk by saying that he was going to share a few things that we always need to remember to do. My thoughts were that it was going to be the standard things like pray, read scriptures...but his responses really touched me. Here are his suggestions:
1. Always pay your tithing.
2. Always make your sacrament meetings and partake of the sacrament. It is an ordinance that
we can take part in every week and be renewed.
3. Always ask for direction for your packages from heaven. Each of our children are different,
learn differently, and have different needs. Pray to know how to reach each of them,
4. Always accept callings. We do not ask for callings nor should we ask to released from callings.
5. Always treat your spouse as they deserve to be treated. And tell your spouse you love them
everyday.
When our mind is set to do things, we only have to make the choice once and then there is no question.